Lies....

I often wonder what people get from lying....Silly thing to wonder perhaps considering we all tell some sort of lies.

"Oh that dress looks great!" (while thinking what was she thinking to yourself)

"I love cats!" (thank God I took my allergy meds)

I think white lies are mostly harmless, personally I would rather someone tell me the truth. But what I am really talking about are the lies that are so damaging they can cause a person to lose so much without any care for the person being hurt. Those lies are evil. 

I will admit, I am guilty of lying. I tell people I am fine all of the time, when really sometimes I am not. I have been going through a 3 year (seemingly never ending) divorce/child support/custody battle. But no one wants to be around someone miserable, so I make a joke about my feelings and laugh at how messed up things are. It's a great way of coping :)

Officially, I have been divorced for just over 1 year - I still remember sitting in traffic and sobbing happily hearing the news. My divorce made it all the way to the New Hampshire Supreme Court. August 18, 2010 is my new anniversary - it must be odd to think about celebrating something coming to an end but for me it is something to be celebrated.....I am just waiting to throw my party.

I had court today and I lost or I didn't lie therefore, I lost. My ex husband is behind in child support and alimony but he got "laid off" from his job in June and fell behind, to which I am not upset about. What I am upset about is the bold faced lying he has done throughout this whole mess. I lost 75% of my income and I have no buffer (largely in part to my ex husband writing a blog about me and defaming my character). I am scared for myself and my beautiful son who suffers from this divorce more than anyone will fully understand.

Lies are destructive 

Lies can be devastating

Lies will be caught

And when this is all over, all of the lies will be put out there for everyone to see...